How Do You Prefer to Be Told “Sorry”?

How Do You Prefer to Be Told “Sorry”?

by | Jul 27, 2020 | Trauma Tools

Imagine a loved one hurt you. If they said, “I was wrong, and I regret not listening to you more carefully,” would it feel sincere to you? What if they said, “I’m going to make it up to you”? Your preference for what sounds sincere has to do with your apology...
How Do You Like to be Loved?

How Do You Like to be Loved?

by | Jul 14, 2020 | Trauma Tools

There are so many people in your life who love you. Have you ever thought about the way they show it? How do you show someone you love them? The 5 love languages is a tool (created by Gary Chapman) that outlines 5 different ways people like to be shown love. This tool...
The Adverse Childhood Experiences Test

The Adverse Childhood Experiences Test

by | Jun 25, 2020 | Trauma Tools

There are many tools that can help your healing journey. One of these is the ACEs Test, or Adverse Childhood Experiences Test. The ACEs test can be found here. It will ask you questions about experiences you may have had before your 18th birthday. Before taking the...
The Power of ing

The Power of ing

by | Jun 19, 2020 | Trauma Tools

Language has a simple way to show that an action is in progress: we add the suffix “-ing.” Those three letters take all the weight off of requiring completion. Even the most accomplished guy you know is a work in progress. It may seem there’s a finish line out there,...
Come On Man, You’ve Gotta Feel It to Heal It

Come On Man, You’ve Gotta Feel It to Heal It

by | Jun 9, 2020 | Trauma Tools

How do I feel? Are you kidding me? I’m a guy! Most of the time I couldn’t answer that question if you paid me, accept when I’m angry, when I’m frustrated. No problems with those feelings. “How do you feel?” “How are you doing?” These questions get asked a lot, but do...