How Do You Prefer to Be Told “Sorry”?

How Do You Prefer to Be Told “Sorry”?

Imagine a loved one hurt you. If they said, “I was wrong, and I regret not listening to you more carefully,” would it feel sincere to you? What if they said, “I’m going to make it up to you”? Your preference for what sounds sincere has to do with your apology...
The Wounds that Time Won’t Heal

The Wounds that Time Won’t Heal

When I speak to men who experienced abuse as children, I see a common pattern: even after the physical wounds heal, emotional wounds are still there. Physical pain can be traumatizing, and it’s not the only kind of pain. Traumatic experiences can also scar us in...
What is Trauma?

What is Trauma?

“Trauma” is a word we use a lot on this site. Maybe you’re still wondering: “Have I experienced trauma before?” It’ll help to learn what trauma means. Trauma is a broad term, and it can refer to a lot of different things. Psychology Today describes it as “the...