Unbound
The Healing Journey Benefits Loved Ones, Too
When one person heals, it impacts others in their life -- loved ones, supporters, etc. Giving yourself permission to start the healing path will also be a win for those you love, because they want to see you thrive. They want you to be happy, because it makes them...
Trauma Can Affect Anyone
When someone has experienced a trauma, their reaction is sometimes, “I never thought this kind of thing would happen to me.” We generally don’t like to think about the horrors of trauma. It’s heartbreaking and damaging. So, even when we see others experiencing...
When There are Skeletons in Your Family’s Closet
We’ve all heard it before: in relationships, “communication is key.” When you talk openly to loved ones, it puts you all on the same page. This sounds simple in theory, but there are so many families that don’t follow this principle. Family secrets can destroy...
Trauma Really Affects Children’s Brains
What do you think of when you hear the word “trauma”? In medical speaking, serious injury is often called “trauma,” such as head trauma from a car crash. But mental trauma is very real, too. Our brains aren’t just like arms or legs -- they control every aspect of how...
You Don’t Have to Re-Traumatize Yourself to Help Him Heal
So, you’re the loved one of a man who’s experienced trauma. You’re probably here because you want to help him. But what should you do if you, yourself, have previously experienced trauma at the hands of a man? What if your loved one’s expression of his trauma makes...
Fear, and When It Becomes Harmful
Your knees are shaking. You cover your eyes and are breathing fast. It’s clear that you feel afraid. When we think of fear, our first reaction is probably a negative one. After all, who wants to be afraid? Why would we want to feel weak and helpless, or endangered?...
Don’t Expect a Quick Fix
Healing is a process that takes time. It’s important for the loved ones of men who are healing to understand that. Maybe you imagine your guy smiling and acting in healthy ways days from now. That’s not going to happen. Trauma happens quickly sometimes, but healing...
Why Children Thrive off Face-to-Face Interactions
When kids reach preschool age, at around 3-6 years old, they start to build all kinds of skills. These include intellectual skills, physical skills, and -- importantly -- social skills. Children begin learning how to interact with others, independent of their parents....
An Often-Overlooked Cause to Your Child’s Tantrums
When we think of being afraid, we think: sweaty palms, freezing up, shaky hands. But maybe you haven’t considered what anxiety looks like in children -- and that it can manifest as tantrums. Your child is whining and inconsolable. After you put her to bed, she keeps...